How hypnosis can build self confidence
One of the most common use of hypnosis is confidence building. How do you get to
the point where doing something scary just isn't scary any more?
In classical approach the method use is call desensitisation - you are repeatedly
doing that thing until you can do it without fear. That’s a lengthy and painful sometimes
process.
Fear, or lack of confidence, is about uncertainty, and once you have done something
enough for the uncertainty to mostly disappear, the fear disappears too. However
sometimes the fear is so big that you cannot even start to do what you wanted.
To give you an example - in my career I had few cases which had fear of driving.
That fear was so big they did have no confidence even to start driving lessons. One
of the hardies case was a young lady who was involved in a car accident. She was
passenger and that experience marked her badly. In trance we went back to that experience
and took every aspect of it and accepted and integrate in her experience and knowledge.
Her unconscious mind understood differently now that experience. I put her to imaginary
drive a car over and over with all her sensory experiences up until she felt no negative
emotions related to driving. Now she was ready to take her driving lessons. And she
passed it and drove every day passing through that place where the accident happened
without any fear. After ten years talking with her she told me that she never had
an accident and she was happy to drive.
Don’t ever think that you go in a trance and the hypnotist is telling you - now you
can drive fiercely and that’s it, because is not how its working. It is a complex
process in which the hypnotist knows what she/he is doing, how the mind learned some
lessons and how you can SAFELY undoing them. Hypnosis is giving you control of certain
aspects that you are not having control at the moment whatever hard you try.
